Wait and watch before you judge, dismiss, turn your back on the human you want to reject for a behavior, a look, an appearance that you don’t understand or appreciate.
You may have something to learn from this person.
He or she may hold a key for you to love a little deeper than before. He or she may indeed put you in touch with a more of your humanity, and shave off an edge of your remaining inhumanity.
Yes, sadly, we all carry an edge of inhumanity.
But, to find the key, unleash the love, you’ve got to be willing to admit you may indeed have something to learn and discover from someone you might readily rather reject. Often, at the core of our impulse to reject is the heart of the lesson life is aching to teach us.
Look “below” the behavior.
Listen beyond the cry.
Hear what is not being said.
Do this and you will find a desire for connection, a longing for meaning, a desire for appropriate human touch, a longing to belong.
It’s – whatever the behavior you despise – a search for significance. It’s a longing to be embraced, understood, accepted, included.
Take a while, perhaps even a very long while, the person upon whom you’d rather turn your back may be the very prophet you’ve been searching for all of your life.
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