Ten ways I can tell clients are becoming stronger, healthier – some of the following begins to occur:
• They get spunky; they question authority, play with the rules, and break (benign) codes of behavior.
• They ignore the negative comments from others, comments that would formerly have impacted them.
• They (increasingly) reject the role of a victim – even if they have been one.
• They (begin to) see the bigger picture of their lives and they begin to strategize for what they really want.
• They (begin to) pay the price of wholeness – this means forgiving others, making things right wherever possible, and being clear where the lack of clarity lead to problems in the past.
• They (begin to) initiate their own fun instead of waiting for it to come to them.
• They grow in the ability to take full responsibility for their lives and blame no one anywhere for anything.
• They are aware of “sideways” frustration and anger and therefore careful not to visit unresolved issues on the “wrong” people – like taking out work frustrations on people at home.
• They (begin to) serve others in ways they’d never before though possible.
• When facing choices they take the choices with the most risk and ambiguity.
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