Portrait of a successful or enriched woman…

by Rod Smith

The successful, or enriched woman …..

1. Knows she never has to participate in sexual activity that she does not want; and knows that her body is her own and private temple which she shares, even in marriage, only when it is by her own sacred, deliberate choice.
2. Does not lose herself in her marriage, or to motherhood, or in taking care of her family, but who is able to develop a strong, vibrant sense of self even while being a loving wife, mother, friend and professional in her career of choice.
3. Does not allow herself to be taken for granted, to be sworn at, to be victimized by anyone, not husband, children, in-laws, siblings, parents or co-workers.
4. Lives above manipulation, domination and intimidation, and has relationships that are therefore pure and open, mutual and respectful.
5. Is able to articulate her deepest dreams, desires, and fears to those whom she loves, without fearing a response of indifference or rejection.
6. Is a woman, who, in the midst of the pressures of work, motherhood and marriage, maintains her unique and powerful voice.
7. Is able to delay gratification for the greater good of her family and community.
8. Has a playful, open, adult relationship with her mother and/or woman in her mother’s age group, and is therefore free of feelings of jealousy and envy with her peers.

13 Responses to “Portrait of a successful or enriched woman…”

  1. Thank you for posting this. I needed to reflect a little and this gave me that.

  2. Matching Portrait?
    “Once upon a time, not too very long ago, there was a mother who sewed many of her daughters’ clothes. This mom had learned the art of sewing from her own mom, who in turn had learned if from her mom… When the first of the daughters to marry started looking through bride’s magazines, she asked her mom if she might be able to make a wedding dress. Responding to the challenge, the mom spent many hours…sewing pearls and sequins on lace…As she sewed, the mom found herself feeling very close to her deceased mother…She remembered the many dresses her mother had made for her over the years, and how proud she always felt in her “originals”…And although her grandmother had died some seventy years before, the mom also began feeling connected to her. Often, as she [sewed] the small beads, she sensed the presence of these two women and experienced a feeling of being loved by both of them. The woman hoped that her daughter would feel that the love of her mother, her grandmother, and her great-grandmother was sewn into her wedding dress. And that this memory would help her pass that same love on to the next generation.” -Mary G. Durkin, from “An Epidemic of Joy”

  3. Excellent post! This should be read by all women and men!

  4. That’s P-O-R-T-R-A-I-T! 🙂

  5. Thanks anglhugnu2 — slipped my eye and I am thankful you pointed it out…. Rod

  6. Rod,

    This is a wonderful and powerful summary. I just read a non-traditional self-help book that had similars messages about interpersonal relationships. It was entertaining, but inspiring and educational at the same time. Along with your blog, this bookprompts me to take a look at my life and relationships in a different (better) way. In case you want to learn more, the book is called Faces of Sickness by Tai Archbold.

    Happy Thanksgiving,

  7. Anytime Rod! Glad to be of Sirfice!!! 🙂

  8. Thanks for share your thoughts! Good reflexion for me!!

  9. Rod,

    You are a woman’s dream… a rarity… a man…a friend… thanks for the boost!


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