How do I know if I am in a bad relationship?

by Rod Smith

Toxic (poisoned) relationships are tiring to say the least. Apart from requiring mounds of energy, they can be filled with threats, silence, manipulation, domination and intimidation. Toxic couples often attempt to drown their pain in drinking, drugs and lustful or vengeful sexual activity.

Toxicity is apparent when “old” arguments frequently resurface, feelings of loyalty and disloyalty rage within you, anger seems to come from nowhere and you have a very short fuse. Life feels like a giant game of chess that’s impossible to win.

Often toxic relationships start with intensely sexual experiences. A new person seemingly offers you everything you ever wanted and so you quickly invest yourself completely. After a short while it feels as if you have been handed a script where the entrances and exits are seldom within your power and you are an unwilling actor in someone else’s play.

Remember there are always more options available for your life than it might appear. Problems play hide-and-seek before they become full-blown and begin to make life unmanageable. Poison doesn’t usually happen overnight. It is helpful to identify some of these issues before they become a debilitating.

8 Comments to “How do I know if I am in a bad relationship?”

  1. the reason why i feel im in a bad relationship coz he never spend time with me;he is a very scretive person

  2. The reason why i know that im in a bad relationship coz i never spend time with my boyfriend.we never talk about our relationship,he is always with is friends;He is a very scretive person.can u give me advise;how will this relationship work

  3. I don’t think am in a bad relationship because she is always there to listen when I yell

  4. I’m in love, and its been very difficult.. He has ended it several times, went to another girl, and always end up coming back to me. He has cheated on me once.. But I just can’t seem to let him go. He gets mad at me for the littlest things and its so hard to cope with, but I’d rather cope with it then lose him. I don’t know how to make a change to this. seems like he controls the relationship 100%. He’s so immature about everything, but I need him in my life. Help.

  5. I’m in love, and its been very difficult.. He has ended it several times, went to another girl, and always end up coming back to me. He has cheated on me once.. But I just can’t seem to let him go. He gets mad at me for the littlest things and its so hard to cope with, but I’d rather cope with it then lose him. I don’t know how to make a change to this. seems like he controls the relationship 100%. He’s so immature about everything, but I need him in my life. Help.

    • im gonna tell u something now if u dont have a kid with him or have been with him for along time and he is going back and forth hun get out of it right now there are more guys out there and more for u to see if life ive been cheated on lied to hit on and anything else u can think of if the relationship gets out of control get out right away ive been there and still doing it but in the process of leaveing as if i love him and knw i need him but if he is doing all this now it could get worse….u never know and would it be something u would want to go through????? how much more can u put up with before u get put down…..

  6. how am i supossed to know im in a bad relationship? ive been with this guy for 2yrs an been through alot he has done damage to me and himself… my family does not like him he is a good dad but can be a bad person at heart sometimes…our son is now 1 yr of age an does not help me but a diper change here an there an a bath when i ask him to give our son one. he has cheated along with me cheating as a big mistake..he still bring up my last Ex as this guy treated me so right but i did him wrong:( it was my fault that i broke his heart i apoligized to him but he hates me as a friend….i deal with me having to yell as far as me getting a point accross to him he still dont listen. i could see my self with him but dont know how much more i can take of him being aggresive with his words and how im treated…What should i do

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