Archive for September, 2024

September 27, 2024

Please write about the SOUL…. wrote a reader, and so I did…..

by Rod Smith

The soul – enigmatic, yet so incredibly powerful – is what brings to life, and is the essence of life, feuling and energizing an inner-being. We may refer to a young person, even a toddler, as an old soul and we know the toddler is, as many toddlers are, or appears to be a deep thinker.  We may say a spritely person of advanced age is a young soul and we ready ourselves for an elderly person with a spring in her step or a youthful inside. Soul is often packaged with a prefix: broken-, angry-, critical-, abandoned-, creative- and all reflect on an inner-condition.

The Soul is the Person housed in flesh and bones; pulsating immortal vitality ferried, decade upon decade, within the mortal corpus, while not limited to it or by it.

May I illustrate? As I write my soul is reaching out to your soul. Hopefully our souls are connecting right now as you read. I have no idea where you are but I assure you, my soul is firmly here with me while simultaneously seeking to reach you and be received and embraced by you. 

I hope it does, and is.

It has happened before.

I know it occurred through the thousands of newspaper columns I have had the joy of writing and hearing in return from many readers.

The soul is the spark of light within that lights up the eyes – eyes which will cease to ignite (yours and mine) once the soul is freed from the body, a body that, for whatever reasons, can no longer house or contain it. On this side of life we have named this moment of release, rather unfortunately, death. Perhaps, rather, it’s a new beginning, a refreshing adventure of deeper love and deeper companionship than any of us has ever before known, and it’s not death at all.

That’s my  belief. 

Installed, divinely imputed and imparted, at the milli-moment of conception, itself also learning, the soul begins immediately, within the womb, to impart strength and resilience into the made-from-dust flesh-and-bone outer form. Soul-power sweeps into the body, bringing with it a life-time’s worth of the capacity for love, a life-time’s worth of the desire for survival, a life-time’s worth of joy in human connection. It imparts to the physical being, an enduring and innate urge for worship, and a compelling desire to impact the larger environment and leave behind a beautiful and substantial legacy. 

You and I are not limited to our physical bodies and I do not mean some outer-body experience, well, not exactly. It is much much more than about my soul reaching out to yours. 

When we write, paint, sculpt, love and rear (raise) our children, adore our grandchildren, and enjoy great-grandchildren; when we arrange flowers, build skyscrapers, plant vegetables, light birthday candles for 3-year-olds, leave fortunes to find cancer’s cure, we are gathering the best of our pasts and throwing our souls into the future.

Generations yet unborn will know our departed souls: 

They will know who we are from the stories told by those whom we have loved. 

They will know who we are from what we have written. 

They will see what we have painted, sculpted. 

Our handiwork and heartfelt work, our generous love and nurturing gentleness will live on, revealing the power of our souls long after the fuel of our inner-being has escaped our aging, dust-to-dust, ashes-to-ashes bodies, the whereabouts of our remains marked with a stone or a plaque, and our souls have returned to the Place from whence they came.     

So? Write it (whatever it is). Record it (whatever it is). Say it in poetry, with colorful paints on paper or on canvas. Write a book, gather photographs, place them in an album. Dance it (whatever it is). Sing it. Declare it, while you can.

You’re seeking a soul-mate in a great-great-grandson yet unborn. 

When he is old enough to understand what you have created for him – your name signed at the end of a love letter or your family name on a high-rise research hospital –  he will appreciate it and you will be generational soul-mates. 

You may have noticed a certain keenness and sharpness within your soul, a sharpness and keenness that may far outpace the keenness and strength of your body, even your intellect, mind, memory. Perhaps your soul is more aware than you may think and knows it is teetering on inevitable escape, in a year, or three, or more. This is why this is as good a time as any to dance, to sing, to declare, and to do so while you can, however you can, ……. when you can.

Your soul is intricately invested in beauty and in your life’s legacy.  

Reach for the diary, the photograph album, the compendium of letters your grandparents or great uncle or favorite aunt left to you and allow those precious souls – now adventuring or resting paradise – to speak to you anew across generations, and then, via you, let them, too, continue to live in the generations yet to come.

We are holding hands, not across a mere oceans, not across mere time zones, but with the generations, past and future, and so, let’s Do Like David did – DLDD – and let everything that has breath (life, soul, energy) Praise the Lord (Psalm 150:6).

One of my favorite paintings — I keep it illuminated 24/7/365 to remind me ever of the women who made me a dad — and sent my soul soaring.
September 26, 2024

They tell on themselves……

by Rod Smith

I had occasion to be with two women who work closely with the public. One, a hairstylist, the other is in guest services for a major hotel.

I asked how soon each was able to identify if a customer is going to be a difficult customer, high maintenance, or easy going. 

“They tell on themselves,” said the hairstylist without taking a moment to think, “as soon as you open your mouth to welcome them they start with the demands, and you are wrong before you even start.” 

“I can tell by how they walk in through the doors,” said the hotel employee, “and the first thing they do is tell you they booked online and they booked luxury. And now they want to upgrade this and upgrade that. I can see the booking. I know they are not truthful.”

“Easy going people are easy to see. They ask my opinion and really listen when I tell them what I can do. And they laugh a lot,” said the hairdresser.    

“When someone comes to check into the hotel and they are not pushing, and I don’t mean by what they say. Difficult people push, push with attitude. Easy people are nice to help. They are not trying to get something all the time.”   

Some people are just plain difficult— no matter what!
September 23, 2024

What kind of day?

by Rod Smith

What kind of day will you have today? 

An honest day, a day of kindness, a forgiving one, a day with time and an ear for the elderly and a smile for the foolishness of the blatantly arrogant.

What kind of person will you be today? 

A patient one, a person who listens to others, one who meets a financial need – small or large – of at least one other person today, a person who offers respect to people even if it is not returned.

It will not be by accident if you and I can ease into our beds this evening having had the kind of day and having been the kind of person as outlined briefly above. 

It will be the result of a plan. 

It will be the result of making decisions before we need them. 

No doubt, unexpected things happen and get in the way and upset the best intentions. The best designed apple carts can be upturned. 

None of the unexpected is likely to ruin your day if you have sat down and made a plan about what kind of day you want and what kind of person you will be. 

It is really rather simple, and, well, what have we got to lose that’s not already worth losing?  

I miss this so much!

September 22, 2024

Reader writes…..

by Rod Smith

Durban

South Africa 

Wednesday, September 18, 2024 

Good Morning Rod,

Just a note to say that I value your pieces in The Mercury every morning. I hope that they continue as long as I do. There is usually something for me to read to my meditation and bereavement groups. Tuesday September 17 was a very good one, “Reach out in person if you need help.” In my weekly meditation groups I usually pick something relevant to read. 

Didn’t I hear that one of your boys has got engaged? If so, congratulations. Lucky girl to become part of  your family.

About “The Soul.”  Could you please perhaps make one of your articles for The Mercury about the soul for me to read to the bereavement group and discuss? 

From you it would make for a good meeting and I would appreciate it very much.

About the group  –  first Thursday of every month in the boardroom. Not everyone suffering a loss will come but we have about 17 regulars who are still coming after very many years.  It is not all Jewish, we are also Christian, Catholic, a Moslem and a Buddhist. Lots of discussion over tea and cookies from the kitchen. The Moslem lady brings kosher biscuits. I always tell them that the soul enters the fetus at conception and stays with the body until it leaves at death and that only the physical body dies. Now I am having someone from each religion  to tell us about the soul, one each month. We have had Shlomo from Chabad, to visit, on the Jewish soul and our member Mariam Motala from  the Moslem aspect. Before continuing, a member wants to have a meeting about the Magnetic Field. The following month it will be Peter Huston, an Anglican minister who, surprisingly, actually also works at the Holocaust Centre!

With all good wishes and kind regards,

Elaine (name removed)

Good morning New Castle
September 12, 2024

Listening Love

by Rod Smith

Feeling loved is feeling heard. 

To LISTEN is to offer profound love. 

If I say I love someone, I will invest the time required to hear what he or she wants to say.

Listening, like love, has no gimmicks, no tricks. 

It is expressing genuine interest. It is putting my own concerns aside for a while and entering someone else’s world. It’s rewriting, reshaping, re-writing, nothing I hear. I will listen as if I am appreciating fine, complex, beautiful art, a masterpiece. I will not “listen” as if I’m engaged in a competitive game of verbal tennis. I will listen as one who has much to learn rather than hide behind the covert belief that I’m the one with much to teach.

Such arrogance neither hears, nor listens well, or accurately.

The arrogant listener hears what he or she wants to hear. Arrogance reshapes what’s said into what the listener prefers. 

When I think “I”ve heard it all before” I’m not listening. 

Listening opens new worlds for the speaker and the listener leading each down a path of brave discovery. It’s a mutual risk. 

The loving listener listens to what is said and unsaid, without rearranging either. 

The listener enters another’s world, then departs with it untouched, understood, admired, no matter how beautiful, troubled, complex, that world may be.

Illustration by Siggi Berg and used with permission.
September 7, 2024

What matters?

by Rod Smith

Repost by request:

What matters?

People matter. How we treat people matters. How we treat all people matters. How we respect and treat those with whom we are close, say we love, those whom we encounter at arms length, or not encounter at all, matters.

It matters much.

How we treat those with whom we disagree matters as least as much as how we treat those whom we claim to love.

How we treat all others (near, far, loved, known, unknown, different, current family, former family, those on the other side of the political aisle) is a litmus test on our spirituality. It’s a test of our holiness if we claim to represent a faith or not. Every human encounter is an holiness check, a biopsy of our integrity – no matter who we are or what positions we may hold – megachurch pastor or atheist.

How we treat all others says nothing (zero, zilch) whatsoever about others.

How we treat others is a window – a large open window – revealing volumes about us, no matter how hard we may try to keep it closed, barred, and the blackout curtains taped shut.

How we treat people matters for many reasons, one being it mirrors the love and respect we have for ourselves. We love others as we love ourselves. The same is true for hate, rejection, and contempt.

One of my favorite photographs of my dear sons!