“I usually end up almost doing my son’s homework for him. This makes my husband very angry. it causes conflict within our family. My son (11) is bright but I do admit he is often lazy. What should I do?”

Stop. The child has no incentive to do his homework while you run interference on his behalf. Unless your son has some diagnosable learning challenge (and even then doing his homework for him is unlikely to be the prescribed treatment) I’d suggest you leave everything about your son’s progress at school up to your son.

Without desiring to insult or offend you, or any parent, I’d suggest that your behavior possibly suggests you are overly involved with your son to the point of neglecting your own well being. Healthier parenting, in my opinion, would offer a child divided attention (I did not really mean “undivided”) given that the sooner children take full responsibility for their own lives, the better life is for everyone in the families.

(Papers edited me, thinking I must surely mean UN-divided attention).

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 7:26 pm in Boundaries, Children, Communication, Difficult Relationships, Family, Listening, Love, Parenting/Children   |  RSS feed |   Reply   |   Trackback URL