1. Arrogance – it’s only a matter of time before you’ll discover you are not quite as good as you think you are.
2. Domination – makes an enemy out of those who were once in your corner.
3. Manipulation – puts people on edge and they will eventually stop trusting you.
4. Intimidation – no rational person wants to be forced into anything.
5. Jealousy – trying to hurt or endanger others or their relationships because of your felt inadequacies will make you an exile among your friends.
6. Gossip – if you spread rumors it will only be a matter of time before you will start feeling shades of paranoia.
7. Unfaithfulness – will ruin your sleeping patterns and make you suspicious of everyone.
8. Resentment and retaliation – gathering hurts, collecting damages, and waiting for the opportunity to get even or revenge will suck you dry of creative energy.
9. Rescuing others – trying to save others from the natural challenge and pain that comes with living will exhaust you beyond your wildest estimation.
10. Passivity – lounging around waiting for life to change, for your ship to come in, as if a fairy godmother is waiting in the wings to deliver you from all your woes, will drive you and all who love you to distraction.

1. Generosity – giving more than you can afford.
2. Faith – in God and in the humanity of others.
3. Forgiveness – absolute, and especially when undeserved.
4. Transparency – living without deceit or hidden agenda.
5. Openness – willingness to try new things and new adventures.
6. Awareness – of the impact left on others and on the environment.
7. Kindness – treating others in a manner that fosters their highest good.
8. Assertiveness – finding your way without impeding the growth of others.
9. Usefulness – finding a meaningful place in a community.
10. Love – deciding to love without expecting recognition or reward.