If you do not tell people who you are they will decide who you are. Which do you want? Your version or theirs? Show up. Speak up. Advocate for yourself – always. This is your thoroughly human, spiritual, adult privilege and responsibility. The healthy people in your spheres of family, friendships, faith, and workplace will endorse and honor this unique human joy that is yours and be similarly showing up and speaking up and advocating for themselves – which will, of course, get your support.
Do your part in reducing guesswork (withholding needed information) and crossovers (speaking for other adults rather than for yourself) and unnecessary entanglements (perpetuating gossip or “juicy” news or tidbits about others) in all of your relationships in all of the many spheres of your life. Clarity now – today – reduces future confusions and unnecessary misunderstandings.
Look for opportunities to “see” others for who and what they really are. FInd opportunities to empower others to achieve their dreams and goals. Neither activity on your part can be rushed. Seeing and listening to both what is said and not said takes time, determination. The rewards are mutually mind-blowing for those whom you will empower and the person who gets behind others and their endeavors.
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