The Art of Adulthood demands the practiced skill of knowing when to remain silent, when to speak, and to hold onto the tongue when do speak. 

Self-monitoring, self-awareness, an appreciation for the impact we each have on ourselves and others –  are crucial gateways to adult emotional health. 

I have left a gathering knowing I have talked too much, over-shared, made unnecessary comments, even, and this pains me to write, hurt another, someone present or absent.

Have you done this, too?  

You got a little thrill the moment the words came out of your mouth, a brief high of apparent inclusion. The tid-bit shared became a window or door or crack to the “inside” of who knows what. But, given time, which could be seconds or hours, there was regret.

You let yourself down. 

Said too much, hogged the floor, or bruised another with an unnecessary comment or story. Yet, at the time and in the context it felt real, important, or playful enough to get a giggle.

Then you were hit with a feeling you’d rather not have had.

I know about this. In a desire for some weird or momentary high or sense of importance I added content to a conversation that was unnecessary, even harmful. 

Silence would have been wiser.

Live. Learn. Decide. 

Apologize if necessary and possible  (it is not always possible). 

Do better next time.

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