A boundary is a line (usually invisible) that separates a person from all other people.
Each person is responsible for the wellness of his or her own boundaries.
Indications of poor or troubled boundaries:
- Sharing too much too soon.
- Falling in love quickly and with anyone who reaches out.
- Being preoccupied with someone.
- Going against your values to please someone.
- Hoping someone you meet will have poor boundaries.
- Accepting food, gifts, touch, or sex you do not want.
- Taking for the sake of getting.
- Giving for the sake of giving.
- Letting someone be in charge of your life.
- Allowing someone else to say what you feel and see.
- Believing someone can and should anticipate your needs.
- Being moody and withdrawn to get attention.
- Expecting people to read your mind and know what you want or need.
- Habitually stealing the agenda, taking center stage, occupying the spotlight.
- Falling apart to get care.
- Eating for destructive reasons or with destructive results.
The above list is from observing self and others and collated from a variety of sources over many years. I’d love to acknowledge all the sources and would if I had them.
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