I recently wrote about emotional maturity.

Using the criteria of emotional maturity, this list attempts to expand on how emotional immaturity manifests itself:

• If emotional maturity is demonstrated in the capacity to switch lenses, to see the world from another’s point of view, the immature person is fixed in his or her corner and will regard differences as evil or dangerous.  
• If emotional maturity is demonstrated in the capacity to report what is heard even if it is a point of contention or disagreement the immature person may refuse to verbalize accurately or will tilt content to his or her favor.  
• If emotional maturity is demonstrated in the capacity for objectivity, the immature person becomes locked into positions and opinions that protect self and self-interests. 
• If emotional maturity is demonstrated the capacity to see the differences among “I” and “you” and “us” and be able to differentiate each person from his or her individual role, the immature person will tend to lose all capacity to self-monitor or remain distinct when under stress.   
• If emotional maturity is demonstrated in the capacity for playfulness and for healthy humor under almost all circumstances, the immature person is likely to be all-serious, black and white, us and them, and see all play or humor as attempts to humiliate or distract.  

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