This is the season children seem to take center stage, and so much excitement is generated whether people do or do not recognize Christmas. May I be yet another voice issuing a few simple words of caution at a time often associated with parties and all that often comes with seasonal celebrations.

1. Remember the adage that less is more – your presence (availability, good humor, affirmation, listening) with and to your family and friends is probably more valuable than even your most carefully selected, expensive presents.

2. You need never be a passenger in any vehicle where you think the driver has had too much to drink.

3. No gift is really a gift if the giving of it puts you and your family into short or longterm debt.

4. Fidelity, truth, openness and freedom are the greatest gifts you can offer your spouse.

5. Love, and any form of controlling behavior (jealousy, pettiness, shutting each other out) cannot co-exist in the same relationship.

Last night when I said good night to Nathanael (my almost-5-year-old son) he sang: “I saw mommy kissing Santa Clause, underneath his messy toes last night.”

Peace, joy, and thanks to who read You and Me.