“I hate being in the middle. My son tells me stuff about his wife’s family. My neighbor tells me things about the people over the road (also our friends but she doesn’t know we are friends) and even my grandchild tells me things going on in his family that I have to keep quiet about. I feel like I am living on egg-shells every time I meet people who are close to me.”
If you hate being in the middle then get out of it.
You’re only there because you have cooperated with the gossip that has flowed your way. All you had to say to your neighbor is “you do know you are talking about people who are my friends.”
Quietly declare to people who speak to you about those not present that such talk is not something you choose to do.
Yes, you can even tell your grandchild you’d prefer he talk with his parents about what is going on in his family.
If you do this with your grandchild (unless he is in an intolerable circumstance or something illegal is occurring) you will be teaching him the valuable art of going to the source or addressing his issues with those empowered to do something about the circumstances.
Gossip never forms “special bonds” – it is always unhealthy for all involved.
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