“I am stronger than I usually think I am.”
This is not some proud arrogant assertion – unless it is. Self-declared, in humility, it is the truth and key to taking responsibility for whatever we are called to face.
“I can learn new things, helpful things, and I can unlearn old things, things unhelpful to others and to me.”
This is key when we find ourselves repeating unwanted behaviors or we find ourselves lost in familiar, uncomfortable ruts.
“No matter what happens I will not return evil for evil or inhabit a world of payback.”
Energy spent playing tit-for-tat or payback is far better used more creatively no matter how tempting the desire for retribution.
“Under all circumstances I get to decide what kind of person I want to be.”
This essential self-talk question removes all others from the equations and demands we face ourselves.
“The issue is hardly ever another person or group of people. I have to ask myself what my role is in all the dilemmas I face.”
The common denominator in all of my relationships and entanglements is me. What do I need to do differently next time?
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