Before you judge others by looks or clothing or demeanor or attitude:
You do not know their story, the hardships faced, the history lived, the moves, the changes and challenges faced. You do not know the heartaches, the heartbreaks, the longings, the broken promises or the losses faced and endured.
Tread carefully.
You do not know what they are hiding in embarrassment and shame with the clothes they choose to wear or what statement they are trying to make. You do not know what violence they may have endured which appear to demand clothing themselves for rejection or protection.
Read the signs with empathy.
People tell their stories – voluntarily and involuntarily – with their every move and every word and every mood and every decision. They do the same with their language, responses, the anger they hide and the anger they display.
Read, see, hear, with compassion, or resist the urge to read at all.
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Terry Angelos – best selling author of “White Trash” – and I will be in conversation about her work and what we can learn about ourselves and our families from her work and principles of Family Therapy. Please contact Shirley@ShirleyWilliams.co.za if you would like to attend.
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