1.“Over working” for the other (absent or present) parent;
2. Getting between the child and teachers, friends, coaches as if the parent can and must protect the child from all consequences, inevitable dangers and everything negative;
3. Giving the child the impression that he or she is their reason for living, the very reason the sun rises on any new day;
4. Treating the child as if he or she is so different and so special that he or she will never really need to be accountable for his or her behavior, mistakes, or failures;
5. Allowing the agenda of the child to take precedence over all other agendas. (Where established plans with other people are sabotaged because a child chooses not to cooperate.);
6. Giving a child things (games, toys, and so forth) to make them happy, while refusing to offer correction, guidance, teaching, and boundaries, and so give the child the necessary tools for a fulfilled, mature future;
7. Speaking, thinking, feeling and interpreting the world for the child, rather than accepting that each child is a separate person, who is able to speak, think, feel and interpret the world, at ever increasing degrees him or herself.

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